3 Golden rules for getting through your most dreaded tasks

Think for a minute…

What’s your LEAST favorite type of communication?

For example, do you dislike networking events?

Or speaking in front of a crowd?

Or explaining the same exact process, over and over?

We all have certain types of interactions that exhaust us. These conversations require so much energy that we leave them feeling drained. Like quicksand.

Yet we’re not all the same. An interaction that exhausts you will energize someone else on your team.

There’s a reason why.

When you unlocked your Fascination Advantage®, you learned that your primary Advantage is the type of communication that leaves you feeling energized.

You also discovered that your dormant Advantage leaves you feeling drained.

It’s crucial to understand the difference. You don’t have to “fix” your dormant Advantage. But it helps to have a plan for tackling the tasks that require you to communicate that way.

Depending on your dormant Advantage certain interactions come more easily than others. Here’s what I mean…

If you have:

  • Dormant Innovation: You dislike new and unproven ideas. Your predictability is why people depend on you.
  • Dormant Passion: Instead of connecting with others based on feelings, you connect on ideas, discussions and intellectual debates.
  • Dormant Power: You build consensus in a group, and don’t like to force your opinions on others.
  • Dormant Prestige: Rather than intimidating or pushing others to reach the next level, you communicate with a grounded, peer-to-peer attitude.
  • Dormant Trust: You love to explore new ideas and invent fresh solutions. You’re frustrated by rigid procedures.
  • Dormant Mystique: You are expressive, open, and candid. People know where they stand with you.
  • Dormant Alert: Details exhaust you. Instead of meticulously reading the instructions, you’d rather figure it out yourself.

How can you maximize your strong suit, and minimize your pitfalls?

My dormant Advantage is Trust. I’m exhausted by repetitive tasks and strict schedules. I can do these types of things, of course, but they’re not my highest value. Yet it’s unrealistic to think I’ll never have to apply consistency in my work.

When I find myself having to operate within a strict plan, or do a repetitive task, I follow these 3 golden rules:

Discipline ■ Delegate ■ Delete

When I recognize the activities that call upon my dormant Trust, I immediately consider how I can apply these 3 steps. Once you unlock your dormant Advantage, you can apply these too.

3 ways to avoid feeling drained by your dormant Advantage

  1. DISCIPLINE:
    • Set aside time to accomplish these tasks, knowing you’ll need extra energy to finish them.
    • Use a calendar app with reminders to keep you on track.
    • Keep a checklist so that you can go through the process of crossing these tasks off.
  1. DELEGATE:
    • Get to know your team members and their Fascination Advantage.
    • Find a partner who excels in the areas that exhaust you and ask for their support.
    • Explore the possibility of outsourcing these tasks.
  1. DELETE:
    • Reduce these types of interactions, so you’re not put in a position to spend your energy here.

Follow this simple formula, and you can be seen at your best, and reduce your dreaded zones.

Discipline, delegate, delete.

Remember…

The goal is not to “fix” yourself, but to free yourself up to do more of what you’re already doing right.

Log back into your report here to discover your own dormant Advantage and how it affects the way you communicate.

HAVE YOU IMPLEMENTED THESE TACTICS TO GET THROUGH YOUR OWN “QUICKSAND” ACTIVITIES? TELL US ABOUT IT IN THE COMMENTS. YOU MAY HELP SOMEONE ELSE FIGURE OUT HOW TO MANAGE THEIR OWN DORMANT ADVANTAGE.

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About the author

Sally Hogshead

Sally skyrocketed to the top of the advertising world in her early 20s, fascinating millions of consumers for clients such as MINI Cooper and Coca-Cola. Since then, she’s published two New York Times bestsellers on the science of fascination, and is one of only 172 living members in the Speaker Hall of Fame. Over a million professionals have taken the Fascination Advantage® personality test to discover how others perceive their communication.

5 Comments

  1. Gina Lee Robbins

    Hi Sarka! Gina, from Team Fascinate here. We’d love to have you learn more about becoming a Fascinate Certified Advisor! Simply enter your information on this page, and we’ll be sure that you are notified when we’re planning our next training later this year: https://www.howtofascinate.com/store/become-a-certified-advisor

  2. Sarka

    How can I become a certified advisor, Sally?I’d like to help teenagers at high schools and companies with your awesome program! Love it , thank you Sarka

  3. Don Enlgand

    Hi Sally –

    I’m the Ringleader [Power + Passion] and like you Trust, rigid procedures and details bore me to no end – especially after I understand the concepts and reasoning behind them LOL. However, the information these tasks provide are what allow me to excel at Power and Passion, after all knowledge and information lead to … power. Your system, for me, has been all about empowering me to understand my instinctual steps to success and conversely the information above has articulated how I instinctually manage tasks I dislike. However, by articulating the steps, I will be able to look much more in control of the process. This empowers my Power + Passion to be revealed even more, because I’m in control!

    So, writing is also a demanding task… I hope you follow the thought.

    Continued success to you!

  4. Tim Gibney

    The insight you give Sally, is very helpful.

  5. Kelly Youmans

    Sally, I have been following you for years and referring your Fascination Advantage profile test to the masses, but THIS… this one post….. is THE THING I’ve always needed to hear. If we had started with this, I’d have been far ahead of where I am now. LOL

    Thank you!!

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