Ever feel stuck?
Too burned out or discouraged to move forward?
Ever felt mad at yourself for not making progress, but at the same time, not sure why?
Yeah. I get it.
I haven’t posted on this blog in a while. Why?
Lately, I've just felt...
It’s not just me. Psychology Today reports that depression is rarely recognized by high-achievers. For a high number of executives, “getting to the top only brings crippling emotional bleakness.”
To make things worse, when overachievers become clinically depressed, they fall harder than those without big goals. Yet, achievers are least likely to seek help.
Just when you think it can’t get any worse... it does.
If you’re not fascinated by your work or life, it’s easy to get discouraged, demoralized, and even depressed.
How to get reengaged?
Robert Frost wrote, “The best way out is always through.” Yet how can you move through the hard part, and back into your flow?
Below, I’ll share my 11 inspirations for getting unstuck, and re-fascinated with your work and life.
11. Fear causes paralysis. (Click to tweet)
The antidote? Action. Only action allows you to reclaim control, and get moving again.
10. Mistakes are tuition. (Click to tweet)
The trick isn’t to avoid failure; it’s to know how to cope with failure when it does happen.
9. The most powerful incentive for success is... failure. (Click to tweet)
Studies on children born in terrible situations, such as depression or war, showed that they grow up heartier, more resilient, and ultimately have a better chance of success.
8. Work towards the positive, not away from the negative. (Click to tweet)
It’s impossible to win if your goal is to avoid losing. Looking ahead helps you come from a place of power.
7. Embrace your inner underdog. (Click to tweet)
At its worst, feeling like an underdog can shut you down. At its best, being pushed down can call you forth to perform at the highest level. Richard Branson, founder of Virgin, describes how he grew from a tiny record mailing-order company into an empire with dozens of divisions by never losing touch with his underdog’s agility. Be an underdog, and challenge the 800-lb gorilla.
6. Wrestle defeat to the ground. (Click to tweet)
Some days, success is about luck, or talent, or skill. But most days, success is about wrestling defeat to the ground until it screams uncle.
5. Expect people to say you can’t make it. (Click to tweet)
Economics student Fred Smith outlined an idea for an overnight delivery service, and was awarded a ‘C’. Smith went on to create FedEx. In your own life, where are you supposedly average, but actually simply unrecognized as exceptional? Being true to you requires being the biggest, best version of yourself. Beware of people who want to pull you down to keep them company. Don’t let anyone cram you into a smaller reality.
4. Pull rabbits out of hats, even when there are no rabbits and no hats. (Click to tweet)
Rarely will you have the resources, tools, training, and support necessary to succeed. In fact, you can pretty much count on success seeming like impossibility. This does not mean it is impossible.
3. Higher goals have the potential for lower crashes. (Click to tweet)
If it was easy, everyone would do it.
2. Protect hope at all costs. (Click to tweet)
There is something worse than losing your job, your reputation, your nest egg, even your pride. And that is losing hope. The whole point of careering is to create a position of strength. Taking a pay cut, trying and failing, being embarrassed— all these can be reversed. But once your hope dies, it’s very, very hard to get back. Arianna Huffington said, “Sometimes the best way to finish a project is to just drop it completely.”
1. Long lives optimism. (Click to tweet)
Don’t avoid the fine line between feeling inspired and nervous. That’s where your best self becomes most alive.
If you don’t experience feeling stuck, odds are you’re not truly putting yourself out there, taking risks and fully engaging.
Sometimes, fear (and its cousin, demoralization) is the best thing that could happen. That’s where breakthroughs live and breathe.
The question isn’t if you’ll get stuck... it’s how you’ll respond when you do.
I got unstuck. Finally.
That’s how I’m writing this to you, right now, here, today.
Thank you for being part of my unstuckness.
We all feel stuck (or trapped or demoralized or frozen) at times. If you know someone who can’t seem to get back in the groove, share this with them.
SHARE YOUR STORY:
What makes you feel stuck? And, what helps you feel unstuck?
The past few weeks have been like a slog through mud. Reading these comments shows that we've all been in the same marsh.
What gets me unstuck is to take a single step. And then another. Because I don't want to be stuck here forever. I have a destination, a mission, and a drive. So, I never stop.
I love that you quoted Frost. I believe that the safest way for me to avoid trouble is to"Accelerate out of the situation." Momentum build with every effort, even mental striving pushes us forward in incremental bits.
Never stop. Never give up. Always keep the destination in mind.
You my friend are an incredibly gifted and talented human being, with an intuitive knack for deep and amazing insights into who we are, and even better how to best utilize our gifts.
I love you Sally ! As do so many others because you are unquestionably "The Real Deal".
I know a lot of people Sally out here in the world who allege to "help", and I can count on one hand the people in the world who have the powerful wisdom and impact upon our lives that you have.
Thank you for being YOU !
Thanks Sally. Stuckville is exactly where I am today. I don't like it there. Your article gave me a little push and a kick in the butt. Much appreciated.
Sally, I first met you years ago when you were the keynote speaker at a conference I attended. You fascinated me with your presentation on Fascination, and I loved what I learned about myself from your personality test. I rarely find presenters as engaging, inspiring, and helpful as you. Now, you continue to send uplifting emails and articles like this one with your strategies on how to get unstuck--fascinating and helpful too! I hope you stay unstuck knowing how much you continue to make a difference in so many lives with all you do. Thank you for showing how you used getting stuck to help so many others bridge the gap to getting unstuck!
Wow! It's amazing how the right words appear in your email just when you need them. Thank you Sally, for sharing your own humanness with the rest of us and for helping me to embrace, rather than fight my own stuckness(?)/ stuckification(?) / creative funk.
Thanks so much. It was a good day to read this. Almost as soon as I read it I received a call that may help move things forward again. The "in-between" moments are tough sometimes, especially when you are a solo entrepreneur. It's always good to know that I am in good and supportive company.
Thank you for sharing and caring first and foremost. A way to get unstuck is to first realize that one is stuck. Then ask why and get totally honest about the answer. Next be thankful for the struggle and appreciate the burning desire to fulfill the goal(s). Have faith that as long as you have the desire that goal will be achieved. Take the first step and keep going forward. Savor, appreciate every step toward the goal(s).
Thanks Sally. I was feeling pretty sticky today and your 11 tips on how to get unstuck helped pull me through .
Sometimes we don't realize the 'stuckness' and then it hits us when we least expect it. Like in a meeting where the obvious was incorrectly accomplished and is pointed out. Admit the incompleteness, change it, remember it and move on! Thank you for waking us all up, Sally!